Making big (or small) decisions can be stressful and we need to make them on a daily basis. At work decisions have to be made all the time. If you have children you need to decide what to make (or buy) them for breakfast/lunch/dinner, and there is endless logistics to decide and plan every day. With family we need to make short and long-term decisions. With ourselves you need to decide what to wear every day, what to eat, prepare, and with life in general- always decisions, decisions, decisions!
Sometimes at the end of a busy day I do not want to decide one… more… thing. I literally will tell my husband (or children) to decide for themselves whatever it is they are asking me about. I am DONE for the day.
But the decisions I’m mainly referring to here are larger ones, like “Should I take this new job?” Or, “is it the right time to move?” So they revolve more around change, where the answer affects many things and people. How to decide? Sometimes we are clear and the answer comes right away, but other times we need to use tools to find the answer.
Rockstar Decision Making Tool
I was recently a little bit stuck in a decision and used this tool myself. I wanted to attend a Tony Robbins event and felt really clear that I wanted to be there, but not clear in what capacity I wanted to be there. Did I want to attend as a participant or as a crew member supporting and serving others (which I haven’t done yet)? The answer felt really foggy for me. I began using the Rockstar Decision Making Tool and the answer became really clear really quickly.
If you are struggling with a decision, consider using this visual Rockstar Check-In tool:
- Sit quietly and close your eyes
- Think clearly about the decision in question without making it too elaborate
- When you ask the question, refrain from saying “should I” and instead consider the phrase “what is in the highest good for me and others? This or That?”
- Picture a “Yes” on the left and a “No” on the right (or the two different choices one on each side), or each of the options one on each side *** It is essential to only have 2 choices here!
- Imagine a white light in the center of your heart and see which side it goes to when you ask the question. Be patient with this part
- Alternatively you can physically hold your hands up (similar to your hands becoming a scale palms up above your waist) and see which one moves down or feels heavier when you ask the question
- Don’t overthink this! Do this exercise multiple times if you are unsure (but usually the first answer is the most aligned one)
Using this tool has helped me so many times throughout the years, and the best part is that once the guidance comes I feel a sense of peace- there is no wavering back and forth- there is decision and clarity.
The challenge for this week Self Love Rockstars is to think of a decision you’ve been putting off and use this Rockstar Decision Making Tool! Let us know how it works for you! Giddy Up!
